I'm in love with my
PCP. Not my Personal Computer Pedagoguemy Primary Care Physician.
No, it's not what you think; my doctor is a woman. And, no, it's
not what you're thinking now; I am not gay. Not that there's anything
wrong with that, as Seinfeld used to say; but I'm not.
I love my lady doc
because she has taken excellent care of me over the years. She's
very thorough and is quick to refer me to specialists whenever
she finds a potential problem. And when the problem is in my head,
she's equally quick to dispense no-nonsense advice. For example,
I have been very conscientious about walking briskly two miles
a day; but after a couple of nasty falls caused by my clumsy stumbling,
I told her I thought maybe I'd better stop walking. "Walk!" she
commanded. "Just pick up your feet." She's right. Her caveat now
rings in my ear every time I set out.
Also, I've been worried
about my cholesterol, which seemed high to me, according to what
I've read. She pooh-poohed my fears saying that because my HDL/LDL
ratio is excellent, the total number is fine. I sent my readings
to another woman doctoran e-mail friend in California. Her
response was, "This is a great profile. You're going to have to
die at the hands of a jealous wife who finds you in bed with her
husband.Listen to your doctor," she said. "She's right."
A while back I attended
a seminar on osteoporosis where doctorsand drug company
representativespainted a very bleak picture of what happens
to women who do not take hormone replacements. We were all going
to end up bent over double and with heart problems, to boot. As
for the possibility that hormones might promote any incipient
breast cancer, that was a minor consideration, they said. Since
I've had some borderline breast symptoms in the past, it was more
than an insignificant matter for me. However, the heart issue
was also a major concern since my mother and her siblings all
had had serious cardiac problems. I asked my doctor what she thought.
"What do I think?" she replied. "I think you attend too many seminars."
She doesn't take hormones herself and very seldom recommends HRT,
she said. A few days later I read that a new study indicated that
not only do hormones not help prevent heart problems, they may
actually contribute to them. Again, my doctor was right. Of course,
next week another group of researchers may disputes those findings;
so everyone should consult with their own physicians before making
any medical decisions. I know that I, for one, will continue to
rely on my doctor.
And if I ever doubt
her judgment, I just ask her for a second opinion from her mother.
No, her mom is not a physician; but apparently she spends her
days reading as many medical journals as she can get her hands
on, and she passes the knowledge she gleans on to her daughter.
"Every night when I get home," says my doc, "I turn on my answering
machine, and sure enough, there's at least one message from my
mom. Last night it was, 'Judith, this is Mother. I was just reading
that tomatoes are very beneficial for prostate problems; so be
sure to tell your male patients that they should eat as many tomato
products as possible.'" I think she should write a book titled,
"Judith, This is Mother." and pass along all her mother's tips.
During my last annual
exam, I asked Dr. Judy if it's true that one should take vitamin
pills only with water. "I don't know," she shrugged. "I take mine
with coffee. Am I supposed to know that?" "Look," said I. "Do
me a favor and ask your mother." I'm waiting for her to get back
to me on that one.
It may be a long wait.
This relationship is not perfect, you see. My only complaint about
my doctor is that though she gives me all the time in the world
during my annual physical exams, it's impossible to reach her
by phone at other times. Between exams, if I have a question,
I have to ask her secretary who, in turn, relays it to my doctor
or one of her nurses and then calls me back with an answer. And
it's not as if I'm phoning oftenmaybe once or twice a year.
It's very frustrating, but I can understand it. And it's not frustrating
enough to make me want to change doctors. After all, the next
one might have a mother who just plays bridge all day.